When new employees joins the team, they seem motivated, eager to learn, maybe even excited about the opportunity. But a few days or weeks in, problems begin to surface:
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They keep making the same mistakes.
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They ask too many questions (or worse they stop asking them).
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They don’t seem to “get it,” even after repeated explanations.
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They seem disengaged or hesitant to take initiative.
It’s a common scene in many workplaces.
And what do frustrated managers or coworkers often say?
“I told them three times already…”
“It’s such a simple task…”
“Why do they keep messing up?”
“They’re just not a good fit.”
“These new employees don’t care about the company…”
Sound familiar?
Before jumping to conclusions or assigning blame, it’s worth taking a step back and asking the more constructive question:
What if they’re not stupid… they just don’t know?
We Forget What It Feels Like to Be New
It’s human nature. Once we’ve mastered something, we forget how difficult it was at first. We develop habits, shortcuts, and internal checklists that make complex tasks feel second nature.
But for someone stepping into a new environment, it’s a different story.
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They don’t yet speak the “language” of the workplace.
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They don’t know your priorities, processes, or unwritten rules.
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They may not even know who to ask when they’re unsure.
Now add on nerves, the pressure to prove themselves, and the fear of looking incompetent and you get a recipe for hesitation, confusion, and underperformance.
Ask the Right Questions
When a new hire isn’t meeting expectations, it’s easy to assume laziness or carelessness. But the truth is usually far more straightforward and fixable.
Here are better questions to ask instead:
- Do they truly understand the task assigned to them?
- Have they been shown how to do it step-by-step in a way that matches their learning style?
- Do they have the tools and resources they need to succeed?
- Do they understand the “why” behind the task not just the how?
- Do they know what’s at stake if the job is done incorrectly?
🔹 How does it impact quality?
🔹 How does it affect colleagues’ work downstream?
Too often, new employees receive a rushed, surface-level explanation—if any at all. Then we’re surprised when they don’t perform flawlessly. But you can’t expect excellence from people who haven’t had the chance to properly learn.
“But I Asked If They Understood!”
Of course you did. But here’s the catch:
When you ask a new hire, “Do you understand?”, they’ll almost always say yes. Even if they don’t.
Why?
Because they don’t want to look incompetent. Because they think they got it (but didn’t). Or because they’re afraid to admit confusion.
Here’s a better approach:
- Ask them to repeat back what they understood.
- Have them show you the steps they’d take.
- Encourage questions. Not just at the start, but throughout the learning process.
This simple shift can save hours of frustration, prevent costly mistakes, and help your employee build confidence.
Easy for You Doesn’t Mean Easy for Everyone
One of the most dangerous assumptions in leadership is this:
“If it’s easy for me, it should be easy for everyone.”
Not true.
Ease comes from experience. And experience comes from repetition, failure, feedback, and coaching.
Think back to your first days in a new job:
- Were you overwhelmed by new names, processes, systems, and expectations?
- Did you pretend to understand things you didn’t?
- Did you struggle to find your place in the team?
Most people did.
And yet, once we become seasoned professionals, we expect newcomers to hit the ground running with minimal support. That’s not just unrealistic, it’s unfair.
How to Set New Employees Up for Success
If you want engaged, capable, and confident employees, you can’t just throw them into the deep end. You have to set them up to swim.
Here are practical strategies that work:
1. Make Them Feel Valued Early On
Your first message shouldn’t be, “Here’s what you need to do.” It should be, “We’re glad you’re here.”
When employees feel welcomed and respected, they’re more likely to ask questions, admit uncertainty, and engage with the team.
2. Clarify Expectations
Don’t just tell them what to do. Explain why it matters and how success is measured.
Avoid vague instructions. Instead, offer:
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Clear, written guidelines.
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Real-world examples.
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Time for follow-up questions.
3. Use Active Understanding Checks
Instead of asking, “Do you understand?”, say:
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“Can you walk me through what you’ll do?”
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“What’s your plan for tackling this?”
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“What would you do if [common obstacle] came up?”
This not only reinforces learning but it builds problem-solving skills.
4. Invest in Structured Onboarding
A strong onboarding program is not a luxury. It’s a strategic investment.
Effective onboarding should include:
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A clear roadmap for the first 30, 60, and 90 days.
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A designated mentor or buddy.
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Scheduled check-ins for feedback and questions.
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Training not just on tasks, but on team culture and values.
Structured onboarding helps new hires integrate faster and reduces turnover dramatically.
Great Onboarding = Engaged Employees
Ultimately, onboarding is not about ticking boxes but it’s about creating conditions where new employees thrive.
An employee who feels supported, respected, and clear on expectations is far more likely to:
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Ask thoughtful questions.
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Take ownership of their role.
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Offer ideas for improvement.
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Stay with your company longer.
The payoff? A stronger team, better results, and a culture where people want to grow.
Final Thought: Teach Before You Judge
The next time you feel frustrated with a new employee’s performance, pause and ask yourself:
“Did I teach them, or did I just tell them?”
Because there’s a big difference between saying something once and making sure someone has actually learned it.
People don’t fail because they’re stupid or lazy.
They fail because they weren’t supported to succeed.
Let’s change that one onboarding at a time.
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Carl-Michael Tessier, M.Sc., MBA
Coach in high-performance team development and tailored leadership support
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